Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Women's Rights and Erotic Literature

What do Women's Rights and Erotic Literature have in common? At first glance you might think that erotic literature is degrading. I mean all those books with half naked women and men on the covers, being forced to do unimaginable acts with men. I've heard it called porn for women, trashy books, junk and other names, but when women start reading erotic literature they come alive with a sense of power in their lives that improves the quality of their lives.

Erotic Literature enhances women's rights. Women who read erotic literature learn that they can ask for more. Instead of being treated no better than a blowup sex doll in bed with their husband or significant other, women who read erotic literature learn to guide their partner into sharing the glory. Far too long men have been been selfish in bed. If you're a man reading this right now and you can't remember the last time your SO actually had orgasm then shame on you. Of course it may not be your fault because you wife or SO may be faking the orgasm because all of your pride is caught up in your prick. Erotic Literature, like Runaway Princess, teaches women that having an orgasm is part of lovemaking.

Lovemaking is a give and take exercise. Men should be giving enough that they don't expect to have an orgasm every time they bring their SO to climax. I know many men will be taken aback by that statement, thinking "Well what the hell is the point of sex if I don't get to come?" The point of sex is to build your relationship. When women have equal footing in the bedroom, when men treat women with respect in the sexual playing field and when women expect to get a physical boost from sex then women can go about their day with more confidence.

It is wrong to expect women to act as sperm receptacles, giving pleasure to a man when that man doesn't return the favor. You can tell a man who has had sex from the way he walks. He's got a boost in his step and confidence pours fourth from him. The quickest way to ruin your marriage or relationship is to never take the time to make sure your wife has an orgasm. The fastest way to improve your relationship is to make sure your SO has that orgasm.

If you can't do it on your own there is no shame in using tools made to give women orgasms. Buy a vibrator or other device. Purchase one of my books and read them together. Improving your sex life will improve your life.

Reading erotic literature will show you that you shouldn't be taken advantage of and give you the confidence to ask for a raise or seek out a better job. For far too long it has been the woman's job to make sure the man felt confident in his life and in the workplace, now men should realize that they have that responsibility too. They are responsible for giving their women that confidence boost that comes from great sex.


Kellie Kamryn said...

I'm in total agreement that it is both parties responsibility to see to the needs of their partner in a relationship. To go out on a limb here, my bedroom relationship with my ex could be fantastic and at other times strained. I looked after a lot of people and met their needs constantly outside the bedroom, especially his. Once in the bedroom, I just wanted him to make me feel special there, since he didn't in every day life sometimes. Then he'd get upset b/c I wouldn't meet his needs. All aspects of a relationship need to be equal, not just sexual ones, IMO.
Great post, Sara!

Sara York said...

I agree with what you said Kellie. Usually men who won't meet the needs in the bedroom won't meet them outside of the bedroom either.

Kellie Kamryn said...

In my case, it was stressful to be meeting all of his needs when for so long there was no attempt to meet mine.

Kellie Kamryn said...

Oh - I did want to say that reading erotica and romance is very empowering for women like you said. I think it helps free up the imagination and give us permission to want those things we fantasize about. I'd written a couple of contemporary romances, but when I shifted into the erotica genre, I found a real freedom in it. I pushed myself to use language I don't normally use, and gave myself permission to really take my writing to a new level. When I got asked to do an R&R for an editor that asked me to make it HOTTER, that was a challenge that I wanted to meet. And I did :) Now I'm happy because I feel I can write any heat level and it has really let me blossom as a romance and erotic writer!

Sara York said...

That's great Kellie. I'm glad you dipped your quill into erotic writing and that it has empowered you.

soulmate said...

Performing cunnilingus can be one of the most wonderful things you can do for a woman. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and has the potential to give her an exceptional orgasm. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for those who require a large amount of clitoral stimulation, it is the easiest way to orgasm. Besides, lots of women expect it these days and men who perform great cunnilingus are always appreciated and considered fabulous lovers.

Sara York said...

I love your comment Soulmate. Men who take care of their woman's needs are seen as better lovers!