Wednesday, August 5, 2015

Will we ever learn-- The harsh realities of the MM genre

In the years that I’ve been writing I’ve seen a lot of crap. Last year at GRL a new to MM author, though not new to writing as she has multiple MF bestsellers under her belt, approached me and said, “Well it’s obvious I’m not part of the ‘in’ crowd.” She went on to tell me that she’d never felt so ostracized and left out of an author group as in a group of MM authors.

Two years ago the MM community decided to spread lies about Kindle Alexander and to this day people still believe those lies. Every time Kindle Alexander has a new release, her FB page gets reported. People treat her like crap and talk shit about her.

For a group that talks about equality, fighting for gay rights to marry, or not marry, or just exist without persecution, we sure don’t apply those same feelings or fight to make sure other people aren’t crucified. Kindle was judged harshly based on a lie that just won’t die. Readers like Kindle Alexander’s books, get over it.

Now, on to what this post is really about. A reader was recently thrown under the bus, and accusations of her being evil were tossed around FB like candy at a parade. Her biggest sin, she is a Christian. She has not reported anyone. She has never been hateful, but her family doesn’t know she’s bisexual. So as a community, the MM group decided to flay her. Congratulations, we’ve lost a reader.

Many new readers to the genre might be in situations where they CAN’T have their family find out that they read MM romance because then it would expose the truth that they are gay or bi. Yes, it’s a big beautiful world out there for gay people who are out and who have support, but not a week goes by that I don’t see a story of some guy or girl getting beat up because they are gay, bi, or trans, and that’s in the USA where we have some protections for gays.

Be kind. If you don’t like someone on FB, block them. Unless you have proof, please don’t treat others like this poor reader was treated. She’s done nothing wrong, other than try to hide the fact from her family that she is bi.